I’ve heard that you ask advice from people knowing already what they will tell you. That is, you choose your counsel intentionally. I don’t know if this is true or not but I find myself in a place, at a loss with what to do, in need of advice.
I don’t want to ask for advice from others not because I don’t value their wisdom and not because I think I always make the best decisions but because what I seek advice on is so intensely complex and complicated that I don’t think explaining it to anyone would capture the true nature of my circumstance. Furthermore, while people “know me,” what defines me as me is my decision making (among other features). There are no right ways to do things, sure in certain situations there are, if someone falls, you help them up. That’s the right thing to do. But in matters of the heart — real, deep and big decisions, it is up to us to figure out what we are comfortable with and can live with.
There’s a country song that says, “let your heart sweetheart be your compass when you’re lost, and you should follow if wherever it may go.”
I think when it comes to matters of the heart, you ought to seek advice from within because not only are you the one who has to live with your decision but also because nobody knows your heart like you do.
I’m a very faithful person. I was recently asked what this meant to me and I think I’ve come to the conclusion that being faithful means you know everything will work out. This doesn’t help with imminent decision making and sometimes it would be nice to have decisions made for us but what a cop out! I don’t want to live in the passenger seat of my own life.
So where does this leave me? Seeking counsel to my heart. Reminding myself to be kind, not only to others but also to myself. To be patient, thoughtful, and understanding, and to have faith.