It is easy to forget about giving ourselves time alone. Even time alone from our own busy, worrying minds. I guess this is the point of meditation, contemplation, and prayer. It is in those moments of solitude and contemplation that we grow mentally. It is just like recovery from physical activity to allow the muscles to heal and develop or sleep to allow our cells to regenerate and our bodies to rest. We experience so much in this life and we need time to process to evaluate our actions and behavior and often our reactions to the behavior of others.
I came across this quote:
“Cherish your solitude. Take trains by yourself to places you have never been. Sleep out alone under the stars. Learn how to drive a stick shift. Go so far away that you stop being afraid of not coming back. Say no when you don’t want to do something. Say yes if your instincts are strong, even if everyone around you disagrees. Decide whether you want to be liked or admired. Decide if fitting in is more important than finding out what you’re doing here. Believe in kissing.”
My thoughts: it begins with the notion of cherishing alone time. Adventuring solo, challenging oneself (alone) and to appreciate nature. Challenging oneself to learn to drive a stick shift (a skill worthy of acquiring), getting out of your comfort zone, following your heart, being true to yourself. Having integrity. Looking to the depths of your heart and understanding what life is about. And lastly…to believe in kissing which to me is really saying to believe in the intimacy between two people.
While this quote overarchingly talks about the individual and the self, it culminates with the beauty and importance of believing in love and the intimacy two people can share. While there is power in solitude as an individual, there is also power in the solitude that a couple of souls can share. What two people can share alone (together) is a unique kind of solitude worthy of exploring. The intimacy of knowing another soul so well is amazing, fulfilling, and in my opinion, the purpose of life. To know when your partner/soulmate/lover is distressed, eating less or more than normal, out of sorts, or to simply anticipate his or her next action/thought. It is amazing and I wish that you experience this type of solitude in your life. A silence and solitude while in the company of another being, but not just any being, a being with whom you are so deeply connected. A being with whom you don’t have to explain a thing, you can just be yourself, just as you would be while you were alone but better yet, more fulfilled.
I am not advocating for codependence or claiming that one is incomplete if single but taking your heart to the next level of love and intimacy with another soul is simply divine. I wish that for everyone (who wants it). I do after all believe that there is no right way to live life and we all must follow our own paths and hearts. It just so happens that humans love to love and so I will advocate for the lovers out there.